Sex Should Be Enjoyable To You And Me

 This past Friday was a ladies night out at Guilty Pleasures N. Charleston . The turn out was great, everybody enjoyed them self.  After the party was over a guest pulled me to the side and said they wanted to ask me a question, but was not quite sure how to ask. So I said no problem you can ask me now if you would like. Anyway the question was not shocking to me at all. She explained how she is no longer enjoying sex with her girlfriend and she has become rather turned off by the sex she is receiving. Its more like they are no longer compatible. She also said that her girlfriend keeps buying bigger and bigger dildos and that only turns her off even more.  Sex is now more painful than it was before.  So I asked  her if she has spoke to her girlfriend and expressed her concerns? She said no. She can't bring herself to say the words. She is in love with her and she dose not want to hurt her. So she asked if I had an advice. So I told her, You need to love yourself  more than you love someone else. You must also stop abusing  yourself, sex is supposed to be enjoyable to you  as well as your mate. I also told her that she needs to talk to her mate. Because if she really cares about you as much as you care about her. She needs to know that it hurts when the  two of you are having sex. If talking to your mate dose not fix the problem than the two of you need to reevaluate your relationship. Because being considerate of each other feelings is one of the biggest parts of a healthy relationships whether it's heterosexual or by sexual. If you don't comunicate with your mate, you are putting yourself in the position that you are allowing another person to damage something internally inside of you. Which is also putting yourself as partly responsible for the damage done to you, because you allowed it to continue. I gave her a hug and told her that I hope my advice helped her.
The advice I gave applies to everybody. Sex is beautiful and its a form of comunication between people. But that dose not mean we are to stop speaking to eachother verbaly.