Everyone says talk about what you want, but they never tell you how!!! Dose that saying apply to everyone.?Well please let me try to help. Meet in public places only. It's been proven that it's easy to talk in public because you are forced to keep your voice down, and in a controlled environment you won't embarrassed your self or the other person. Now agree not to use trigger words that sets the other person off . Seeing that you know this person you already know what triggers them. And you never start off by saying I hate when you do this, or I don't like it when. That will turn on the war sign and that's not what you want.
Now lets start by asking each other can we talk open for a few minutes? There are some things I would like to discuss with you, But I don't want you to think I'm trying to start something I just want to talk. Then go on to say Do you remember when we use to do what ever it may be.Tell your mate that you miss that in your relationship. What can we do to get that back? They may tell you they miss some stuff to. Or do you remember when we where having our special time.? It felt like it was rushed or you really was not into it.
You are both adults communicate to each other about your feelings and listen to what the other person says. You may find that they are not comfortable doing it or they may not be comfortable with their own technique.Try asking your mate what type of things they like instead of just assuming that what your doing fells good . Because it may not or they may want more of it to get them to the breaking point.Or they may not like it at all.But if you don't talk you will never know.
More often than not its simple things that you miss. Which you can turn everyday relations to the most mind blowing and enjoyable experience ever. But if you can't talk to each other than why are you having relations with each other, With are clothes on . Why take them off?
If it's just about a climax than why bother to involve other people, learn how to do it by your self. But if your looking to have a mate, you have got to communicate.
Hey Stormy you might be on to something, We sat down and had a few drinks and just talked and I found out some stuff I did not know. I also found out that I was not as good in bed as I thought. So now I slowed it down and now he says he enjoys sex with me better now and I told him that I didn't feel like it was a chore.
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