Do We Still Have Chemistry Between Us?

           When you have been in a relationship for so long things are bound to change. That is a given , the question is how much of your relationship can you control? How much of the relationship is inevitable? A lot of what happens in your relationship you can actually control. That's just like the   80 % to 20% ratio. But that is another column. Today we are going to talk about Chemistry. How to gauge your relationship and lifestyle and is it working for the both of you or is it one sided. As superficial as some of these questions may sound. They can have a real powerful impact on your relationship. It can also tell you both more about what you may or may not take for granted in your relationship. Now the only way this is going to work .Is if you are honest with yourself and your mate. Are you ready?
                                                    The Chemistry Test

  1.My partner and I would rather be together alone than with other people.  True      False

 2.My partner and I no longer flirt with each other.                                          True     False

 3.My partner makes me feel needed.                                                                True     False

 4.My partner makes me feel sexy.                                                                    True      False

 5.My partner and I don't hold hands in public                                                  True      False

 6. I am no longer physically attracted to my partner                                        True      False

 7. Sex with my partner is energetic and satisfying                                           True      False

 8.If my partner and I don't have sex every few days I miss it.                         True      False

 9.My partner and I no longer kiss and caress.                                                  True      False

10. I get annoyed when my partner calls me in the middle of the day.             True     False

11.At various times I resent my partner.                                                           True     False

12.I love to give my partner oral pleasure.                                                         True     False

13. My partner dose not look happy to see me any more.                                  True     False

14.My partner and I seem to want different things.                                            True     False

15.My partner and I often says, "I love you"                                                      True     False

     Now be honest with each other this is a way to fix the chemistry you once shared. Face it we all could use some improvement when it's our love ones who we may be hurting. If you answered more questions against your relationship instead of for your relationship. Than you have a problem that needs to be addressed. Don't put it off, Have dinner and talk about what has changed and don't be negative or a bully. It won't help. Having a good understanding about each other is a beautiful thing. That is what makes relationships grow. Good luck!!

      As always have sex responsibly be good to yourself and each other.
                                                                 Love Always Stormy Weather69

     

Wanted ******** A Lover To Come To Come Rescue Me

                   After being in and out of  relationship over the years . You are almost ready to put out a Want Ad. Am I right ? That's is why people are resorting to dating sights. But no matter which one you choose. Your still taking a chance. Not to mention how dangerous it is. You would do better going shopping for food during the week at the local Wal-Mart and see what people are like in their natural environment.
                   Some people try the club scene but let's face it. If you met them in the club that is where you will loose them. Or worst they will still be going to the club when your finish going to the club. Because you feel as if you found your mate.  They may feel that because they work hard. Then they should be able to enjoy their time off how ever they see fit. And they are right. But wouldn't it be nice if just the two of you went out dancing sometimes?
                 How come that doesn't happen anymore? Why don't you get the little flirts from your mate anymore? Did you notice that you don't even get your mates, very best when your going out for dinner? Why do you think that is?
                  I'm going to tell you. Everybody has become too damn comfortable in their relationships, that they don't feel the need to work on keeping things up. They feel as though they have you now. The hard part is over. Wrong the hard part is just beginning. You have to stay up on your A game and stop thinking that you are  not replaceable.
               This fact applies to Cupcakes & Candy bars alike. If you took that little extra time to put out your best when you where trying to impress your lover. Then by all means do it after you have them because if you don't. Wait For It !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
                 Somebody can and will be enjoying your sweet's and treating them the way you use to treat them. I know your Lover is not that type of person to go out and do that to you. But have you  given them any reason not to do it to you? How do you know they have not done a rough draft on a Want Ad. Can't you just see it ?
              Wanted!!!!!  Somebody to show me some attention, likes to go on long walks, likes getting dressed for dinner twice a month , loves music, and a good book, enjoys cooking or going out for coffee and doesn't mind making love without a appointment in a date book . Somebody who knows the meaning of date night, or sharing a shower. Knows how to give as good as they get.
                This is just a short ad. I'm sure some people can make a Ad with a little more detail than this little ad. All I'm saying is treat your lover the way you want to be treated. Or  somebody just might be constructing a Want Ad.
                  As always have sex responsibly be good to yourself and each other.
                                                                                Love Always Stormy Weather 69
             

By The Way Did You Notice?

     So your trying to understand why in the world would you be looking at this bank clerk in a lust full way. Now I know your in a committed relationship and clerks are probably polite to all the customers that come to their counter. So then why are you feeling like your special at this very moment. Because they asked how was your day going? They probably make small talk with everybody it's a bank. Right! Well yes and no, Yes it's their job to be welcoming to the customers . But No you put  a little extra time into yourself today. But your mate didn't even notice did they? So of course it's nice to get a genuine complement from some body. So then why are you feeling so good about it? OK so you stopped to grab some gas and as you walk in to pay for your gas. Again you get paid  another complement. But this one was different you both are regular customers in a gas station. You both are standing in line. Now your talking to each other about the weather. Now your having small talk.
       You are receiving a little more compliments ,here and there but your only noticing it because of what is going unnoticed at home. Am I saying your not loved at home ? Not at all . What I'm saying is that when your not being noticed at home sometimes small things can mean a lot. It dose not matter if your a man or a woman. A compliment from the person you love means more coming from them than it dose from a stranger. But if your not paying attention to your mate. Somebody will be happy to do it for you. Am I saying that every one will be flattered by outsiders? No . Am I saying that your relationship is in trouble when outsiders are paying attention to your mate? No not at all. What I am saying is, If your mate has on a new shirt or changes their hair, has on cologne or perfume say something to complement them. Because when you stop saying sweet things to your mate somebody in a harmless or flirtatious way may very well do it for you.
       Showing your mate that you notice the small things that they do for you and or how they take the time to groom themselves should never go unnoticed by you. Don't let the confusion of a day get in the way of your vision so much that you can't see what is obvious to other people. It's very easy for women to give a complement to a man or a woman. She is pays attention to details. For men it's different. But it boost their ego and confidence when they get noticed. Question , did you complement your mate today? May be somebody did it for you. The day is not over yet.
          As Always Have Sex Responsibly Love Stormy Weather69