Why Are We Trying To Change Each Other

     Do you remember when we first got together? You said how beautiful I was and how you admired my strength. You told me that with a woman like me in your life that there was nothing that we could not do together . Do you remember how we made love as if that was all we needed to live. We spoke of future plans and our like together. You as My Candy bar and I as Your Cupcake. Wow, what plans we had.
      Our Love was so fresh and new. We did such kind things for each other. We even thought that our Lil quirts where funny.We laughed at our corny jokes. We use to make running jokes about how we didn't want to be like some other people we see . You remember the ones that seem to be soooo unhappy They never seem to smile at each other . As if they lost what made them happy. Do you remember that?
        As I look back over the years we are not abusive to each other. We don't argue or fight. We rarely dis agree on things. But we do seem to have become emotionally disconnected.I'm starting to feel like a possession instead of your life partner. So can we try to start a new lets do a inventory of our relationship before it's too late and then we no longer like each other.
         Instead of minimizing our differences let us maximize them. Instead of denying that you are better at this and I am better at that. Let us take full advantage of our special skills and recognize the weaknesses in order either to work on them. Or to turn to what we do best. I love you. I won't go through what each of us are good at . Nor will I say how bad we do things that don't come naturally to us.
      I show you how much I love you , You tell me that you love me. I could not do well what you do so well. Nor could you do what I do. I like me as I am and you as you are. Can we please come to a better understanding of each other. And get back to the loving people I know we are.
          As Always Have Sex Responsibly,
                                                          Love Always Stormy Weather 69

Sexstanding

           When  you have been in a relationship of any kind you at some point come to a common ground. Where you can be yourself and be apart of the person,You are with.Without losing yourself. In so many couples when you have had them for so long. You may find that you are in tuned to them or in sink with them that without even thinking about it you move as a single person at times. It often happen with identical twin. They move in a mirror like image at times. But that is, because from the time of conception until they are born and well into school age. They learn everything together. Even if one learns a little faster than the other.
           Well you may not believe it, but the same can be true for people in relationships.When you are in tuned with each other you can and may very well move as if you are dancing.  Some couples behave in a manner like they can read the other persons mind. But that is not it at all. They have a pattern or blueprint that their partner pay  close attention to them for so long that it becomes second nature to them. They are not even aware that they are doing it.
           The same thing can and will work during your Tango time. Your thinking at this moment that I mean a repetitive act. I am not . That would be boring , like watching paint dry. What I am speaking of is not repetition but the reading of the body language. That is used to express how you feel and what you feel. It's been used for many years in different circles. You can see it on other What is the rhythm their heart making for you to dance to? Although you may like the sound that you want to hear out of their mouth. Soon that sound can become like your favorite song you play on the radio. That does not take a skill.that is just a finger that turns a knob.
              You want to be on the same accord with your mate and they should want to be that way with you. So, what is the Best way to do that? Get in tuned with them and pay attention you may surprise yourself on how much you know and what you don't know. It's not like how they take their coffee or tea. So go and start Sexstanding your mate. It's a Beautiful thing and you just might find out you like what you've learned.                                                                                                                                                                            As Always Have Sex Responsibly
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Is It Too Late To Learn Something New ?

         I use to always think that if you didn't learn some things when you were young. You were a lost cause. Because nobody is going to take the time to teach you when they have gone so far past that time in their life.But life ,time and age have proven it to be a fact that you are never too old to learn .           Take this couple for an example. This couple had both been married to somebody else in their prior life. But there were a lot of things that they have never done. One of them because there was no need to and besides they had heard such crazy stories. That he was not about to try it. She on the other hand has heard such stories herself.  In fact she was convinced that she would never do them.               But as one gets older they will find that they are not all factual. In fact a lot of them where just that stories and no truth to them at all.  So how do you move forward in your new life ? Here's a better question, How do you tell your mate that you would like to try something new during your Tango Time? Well from experience It's best to talk about it when you are fully dressed and not when your about to have Tango Time. You want to feel at ease when talking . Not uncomfortable or aggressive.and definitely do not make it  all about your wants. Be open minded about what they want.
             A couple who can talk openly about what they may like or dislike in their Tango Time. Can and will make your Tango Time,That much more enjoyable to both of you. You may even find that you like some of the things they like.  Just like these two (2) often talked about sexual experimental  acts like anal sex and oral sex . Believe it or not not everybody is into either of them which can make it very difficult to talk about. So when you are talking to your mate. Be mindful and considerate of their feelings.
          Remember to treat people ,the way you want to be treated. As Always Have Sex Responsibly
                                                                              Love Always
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