How Important Is Sex In A Great Relationship Or Is It Important At All

           If you are in a relationship with somebody you love and you don't think its important. You are in for a rude awaking. Is it the most important part of a healthy relationship. What do you think? Let me share some information  with you. Now  I would like to know how you feel. So please feel free to leave a comment below. It took me a minute to figure out they to answer a question from a email as well as write this column.I know it's more than one couple going through this
            So why don't we start at the beginning. When you and your mate first started being intimate  you could not get enough of each other .Things seem to be perfect. Time passes and somethings in your life changed. It's apart of life we all know that. Right? So what happens next happens in bedrooms all across the world. Everything else becomes more important. It seems other things take precedent over your sex life. You are not in this boat alone. The thing you have to remember is that is dose not have to be that way.
             Sex provides an important time-out from the stresses and strain of a fast paced world we all live in. It also adds a quality of intimate closeness that is important in a healthy relationship.Sex is also a great exercise for our heart, circulation of blood flow in the body. It's also a act of sharing a symbolic act of trust.
             I'm not saying that sex is everything but it is a big part of a relationship. For some people it's only about 10% on the important scale  for some people it about 30%. Now you have some couples that say sex is around 75% of their relationship on the important scale. I can hear you all saying things like, They must be in bed all the time. Or they must not have anything going on in their life. You would be wrong on both statements. They say that large percent because of the lack of sex in the relationship. So it seems like a big part of what keeps them connected to each other is missing.
             A good healthy sex life can make you feel more relaxed, accepted and more involved in your partner's life.But when sexual activity and intimacy is missing. Believe it or not it becomes a big focus of the relationship. You will find out after a while problems will start to appear out of no place. Feelings of doubt, mistrust, and destructive behavior often sleep in the same bed.  If you have not been active. Get active small things can mean a lot when it comes to saving your relationship.
              Remember to be kind to your mate as you want them to be to you life is too short. You don't want to waste it on something as small as a misunderstanding. Or not understanding how important a touch can be.
                 As always have sex responsibly and remember Stormy Weather 69 Loves You
   

Do You Remember When You 2 First Fell In Love

          OK I get it times have changed. But when you think about it in the hearts of love 10 years is not that long, in fact it seems to fly bye in half the time.  So your thinking to yourself where is she going with this. The answer is very simple. If you have not done it yet. RENEW!!!!!
             What do I mean by Renew? I mean everything! How often do you change your curtains in your house or how about your bathroom or bed room decor. If your car is not working the way it use to. You fix it, Right? So why not fix the one thing that means more to you than any of those things. The most precious thing in your life,your lover of many years and or husband or wife. So why not Renew that relationship.
           Sometimes small steps work like going out on dates again. I mean a real date when you call your lover and ask if they are busy. On Friday night if they would like to go to the movie with you. Or how about there is a new restaurant  that just opened up would you like to go to dinner and check it out. Now make it a real date. Get dressed bring flowers or a card. Act like you never went out together. Try showing them a good time. Remember to turn off your cell phone. Don't check your social media on the date. Stay focused, its not helping to renew anything. Remember it's about the 2 of you.While you are out drop a hint about Renewing your vows. Not a full blown conversation. Save that for another time . Just ask what they think about it.
              Even if you are going to a small chapel with just a hand full of people. Or in your backyard garden style. Nothing that would break the bank. But something to show your lover that you are willing to go that extra mile to try and get that special thing back.You know, that thing that made the two of you fall in Love in the first place. You remember that kiss don't you? The one that seems like it took forever to say good night. What is it that made you rush to get ready for a date with them?You may have had less money then. Or a not so nice job or car. But you had a very special kind of feeling when you were in each others presents. I see your memory film playing in your head. What is the name of the cologne you wore that turned them into a octopus?Do you see where I'm going with this yet? Now your gonna say that you don't have the time or you don't have the money or when it's just too short of a notice. Do you know what you are doing now it's commonly known as MAKING UP EXCUSES!!!!! You can find the time if you want it. It really only takes 60 days to pull it off. To be truthful with you. Also it would be a lot of fun.Because Love is supposed to be fun.
             Now if your not married you should plan a trip away from your every day life style or plan a party and invite a hand full of friends so you can connect your energy. You'll hear what other couples are doing and get some ideas of your own to pick up your relationship.
               Email me if you need a little more help and invite me to some of your social gatherings. If time permits I will attend. My email is letstalklikeadultssw@gmail.com.  Good luck and remember to have Sex Responsibly.
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Lights Camera Action !!!!!!!!!!!

              Does your lover or lovemaking style change ,when your home verses when you are away from home? For a lot of people it does. In fact some people say it gets better. Some say it's who your with. Meaning the company your with at the time. The Big question is why do you think that is? Your needs are the same. Your the same person.So why do you think that one is better than the other? Well in both cases the answer is the same.
               Believe it or not it's the adventure.The scene has changed everything is different. You are a little more free to push the ruler a bit more. You can be free with your inhibition's. Who cares if you get heard in the hall or the next room. You don't know those people.Your never going to see them again anyway. And if you do what are they going to say. Nothing, because they wish they had the enjoyment you did..
              So I say, Let The Good  Times begin. And may you have a greater time in bed than you imagined in your head. Pull out every trick you know. If your not driving the car try to google a new one. It can't hurt, in fact it may just be what you need.To put a little twist on things. Blindfolds or feathers are always good in a pinch.
               So you finally got a day off and your Cupcake/ Candy bar tells you pack a bag.  You won't be gone long just the day and one night. So what do you pack?  This is easy. Something that will turn them on. So that no matter where you go. They want to get you back to the room for some Hot Action. Make sure you pack some smell good stuff.  Something sexy to sleep in even though you won't be sleeping in it. Candy bars this goes for you too. Get some nice PJ's or a outfit for you DJ/Candy bar. If you get my heavy drift.
                Now go have some fun. Remember toys & gadgets  are a bonus not a replacement.
  As Always Be Good To Yourself & Others.
                                                 Have Sex Responsibly Love Stormy Weather 69