Just Because Your Married Dose Not Mean You Are You Will Always See Things The Same

        So, let's just put it all the way out there. A lot of people are not happy in the life that they have. On the other hand, some people are. A lot of people feel if they have lived with it this long. Why change it? Some people feel that they don't want to even think about starting over with somebody new. Some even feel that it's too late in the game, to start a new life. 
         I understand the direction that you all are coming from. But let me give you a little insight. There is something you can do to be happier in your life... All is not lost. You can call it quits. But you have invested a lot in this relationship to just quit. So let's try another approach. Screaming and Yelling and Empty threats about leaving someday is not going to do it. You need something that is going to work right now. Am I Right? Let's try a little self inventory and then do inventory on your mate. Now the only way this is going to work is if you are going to be brutally honest. Not just about one of you but about both of you.
           Ok so this is how it works you must put down on one side of the paper all the positive things you do and on the other side all the negative things you know you do whether they know about it or not.  Please try not to be petty about the stuff on the list. Now look over your list. Do you have more positive  or more negative things on your list. If you have more negative things on your list. Then you have the option to cut your loses and move on. But if you have more positive things on your list, Let's work on how to fix your communication.
            Next are you two considerate of each other or do you just assume that they know how much you appreciate them. Because some times a real Thank You and acknowledgement is worth more than the weight of gold. When it comes from the one that loves you. But if you don't express it. It's like getting a cup with a whole in it.
              Now some people are just not going to get it no matter what. You can walk around with a sticky note stuck to your head. They still are going to be blind to your needs. You need to find a common ground that you can both meet each other on. So that you can work on what is falling apart.
              Remember to talk to them not at them. If you want positive results. Often we have to remind people that the things they do hurt our feelings. They also need to be addressed when they happen. Just remember to do it in private not in the public view. Remember we are trying to fix what's wrong not start a war in public view for the world to see.
              If you find that the two of you can't talk it out you need to sit down with a counselor. Not hold grudges for weeks at a time. That doesn't help anybody, because after the week passes you are going to have the same problem.  Well, Ms. Rice I hope this helped.
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