If I Tell Now Will You Keep Bring Out The Best In Me As I Do You

      So often we have somebody who we love and don't know how to tell them.Its hard if you are at a lost for words. Some people feel that music got them in situations that they wish they weren't in. But the truth is, it's not the music or the lyrics. Every thing happens in a certain time frame and when you heard some of these songs. It really may not have been for you at that time but for the  future. Some time if you really listen you can hear what you are supposed to hear and not just the song that you are dancing to.
        So why don't you let me set the scene for you.Put your night in my hands. Everything you read from this point on are titles and lyrics for songs you have heard. It may have been some time since you did this. Change the scenery in your bed room just a little. Fresh lining on the bed a little soft smell in the room. Nothing too overwhelming. You want to be the Centred Attraction, Take your love into the bathroom take a nice shower together you wash their body and let them wash yours.Now would be a good time to start.Have a good time and enjoy your lover.                                            Light some candles and tell your lover tonight I want to see you naked with water running over your body. My hands caressing you.
         I want to fall in love all over again,You know what I mean .The Hot,Wet,Steamy Sexy Seductive Love. Yes! Right now.Lets get it on. Welcome to my world I'm looking for my lover. Tonight is the night I want to show you the secrets in my garden. So let the candles flame shine like a moon against my ripples and your hard waves. My only wish tonight  is to satisfy you.Living in a world we didn't make, Our only escape is making love.So run wild like the black cat. I'll take you to places you have never been.
This is how I feel, I'm for real. But if you want to know the truth about tonight take this journey with me. Something as soft as a careless whisper. Will fill the memories of our love. Sweet memories are what is used to keep me here with you. Our heart is the house of love.Time and understanding is all it took to build it. I need you to understand me. Even though my job may take me away from time to time, just know if you feel insecure you can rest assure.Love will never do without you.
          So kiss me and hold me, From the very start you had my heart. So my heart belongs to you.
My Love will be the sweetest thing you'll ever know. That's why, every so often I want to make love like the Wild Black Cat free in the jungle or slow dance. So you can do what you do ,when you did what you did to me.Tender lover, hold me close I will always surrender. Day or Night sometimes it's like I'm dreaming.You say you love me, I know you do. Your kisses drive me crazy, You licking my candy I want you to melt into me. Make my love take flight. We don't have to do it every day, But lets do it tonight.
         The day you said Yes, you where the answers to my prayers. In between the sheets no power baby can keep us apart on this earth. When we make love I'm in Paradise. Your engraved in my heart. Day will make its wall from night that you can be sure just as I love you. While where making love on the stairway to heaven. When we are together I may not know what song to sing or which one to play to express how I feel. You are my everything your the answers to all my dreams.
            The only thing left to say is, Every day, love me your own special way. Melt all my heart away with a smile . Take the time to tell me you really care. And we'll share tomorrow together.  I'll always love you forever.  Come lay here with me and I will guaranty all the tenderness and love you'll ever need. That's the way love goes. 

Attention All Cupcakes And Candybars

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Maybe I Went About It The Wrong Way

Please forgive me if I have upset or offend you in some way. I was given the impression that you wanted to take part in my life.I'm sorry that you only thought that I was only good for sexual pleasures. If I was aware that this was the only reason you wanted to be with me . It could have saved us both a lot of time and useless conversation. Not to mention all the money that has been spent, party's we have attended.I thought that you wanted to be a part of my life and all that it entails.
           Don't you think it would have been nice to let me know, that I was to be used as a show piece or trophy to parade around like a well trained pet. Where do you get off treating me in that fashion? or is it that you can't tell the differences between somebody who is kind and caring to you, apposed to somebody,who treats you good because they want you to give them something in return. When we said that we loved each other I thought it meant more than a few little words. I had no idea that it meant that one of us would have to give up who we where as a individual person.
               If I knew that I just could have stayed single and did who I wanted, when I wanted and let the day pass without a second thought. I'm sure we we not be having this talk.O Boy what a damn waste.
            What ever happen to the love that brought us both so much happiness? I know things change,people change.But this Hurst!! I mean it really Hurts.! I guess it all boils down to the fact is that we really didn't know each other anyway. What makes me really sick is that it took 5years and 1child later for this talk to come about. And even now your just sitting there with a blank look on your face as if I'm holding you here against you will. Say something will you please?
            OK, I was quite and let you talk. Good Bey.
         This is what happens when couples don't talk about their feelings, and they assume the other person is supposed to know how they feel. To all My Cupcakes & Candybars , don't let this be your fate. Talk to each other so you can both have a clear understanding.
        

What Did I Do To Make You Need Another ? Or What Didn't You Do?

I received a e-mail after I was on Those To Watch Radio Show Live from a listener and a regular viewer of my column. The e-mail read why do we have to have sweets on the side if we have sweets at home. There are a lot of Cupcakes and Candybars who are willing to do what ever their mates want. If only their mates would only stop assuming they can't get what they want .But simply ask for what they want. Not knowing that the person they went outside to find. Has been in front of them all along. If only they would ask.
          I must say that I agree and disagree, You have some people who have been telling their mates how they feel and what they want in their relationship. But their request fall on deaf ears. Then there is the flip side to that. When you can find every reason in the world not to bend or even try to see your mates point of view. Which is going to do what? Make them go outside so they may get their needs full filled.
          The truth is communicate with your mates and put your cards on the table.Of what you want and don't want in a relationship. So you don't waste any body unnecessary time and effort. That they could be using with somebody who wants the same things they want. If you don't ask your mate ,you can't be mad when they don't deliver.
As all ways  we are adults act like it, And have sex responsibly.

Do You Miss Me When We Are Apart?

          So its that time again you know business trips. Longer hours at the office trying your best to make sure you (dot all your I's, and cross all your T's) right you know what I'm talking about. Let's not leave out those of you that work from home or work at night and try to run a few errands before you go home for some sleep. If you have children that still require you for their everyday lively hood that is more on your plate. Right!!! I understand but in the middle of all of this. Do you miss Me when we are apart? I'm not talking about the 15 second phone call to make sure I'm not laid out some place half dead. No I mean really miss me .
           Before we even had a car, you worked nights and I worked days. But in the middle of everything we found time to do little things together. We found the time to hold each other sit down and share a conversation over coffee and ice tea. Do you remember that? I would come home for lunch just so we could get a piece of something sweet. To hold us over until that night when we would get a little before dinner or after before you went to work.
              Do you remember when we would have adventures in hospital parking lots. Do you miss Me?On your desk at your job and you still had to answer the phone.Do you miss Me? What about the balcony seats in the movie theater.Do you miss Me? Do you ever wounder what happen to the days when we would wake up and before we even said Good Morning we would enjoy each other's Sweet's and sometimes way past breakfast. Do you miss Me? How about the times when you said baby I really got to go I'm gonna be late now girl don't start and then you would get back in bed call your job and say I'm gonna be late.Do you miss Me? Making love at truck stops just because it turned you on. Do you miss Me?
               See I'm asking you all this stuff because I think about our Adventures all the time. And  I miss you baby come home I'm waiting .I Love You
              As Always Have Sex Responsibly

Whatever Happend To The Lover I Used To Know

           When they first got together they could not get enough of each other.We are talking Cupcakes and Candybars every day or even several times a day it was a fancy gourmet sweets buffet. But lately one of you  is feeling like something is going on. Sometimes one of you has a attitude  or you just not in the mood like you use to. Never the less something is not the same. Which one of us is to be the blame. We still love each other but what went wrong. And how long do we let it go on like this before, the little kisses in the day go away. And saying goodnight become common words like hi to a co-worker.  That is not what you want you have got to this thing around before its too late to change and you find yourselves living separate lives.
        So for no reason at all  why not send your sweetheart a card just to say I Love You or even send a e-mail or text to let your lover know that you think the world of them. Try for no reason at all, leave work early make dinner arrangements just to have a little time together put some romance in your life. But instead of going straight home go for a walk and hold hands, talk about things that you use to do. Play a memory game . Like do you remember when we first fell in love? . Do you remember when we use to talk on the phone from dark till dawn..Give the kind of kisses that make each other warm inside.
         Now that your home make out for a little while and if your both feeling frisky now try to enjoy each other make love like you use to and remember. The fire still burns inside of you both it just needs to be re lite.and small things can turn a spark into a flame. I you don't try you will never know  what things can be done to change the direction of your love life.  Try some small things to enhance your romance in your relationship before you throw in the towel. If you need other things to put some romance in your life there are adult stores that can assist you. Some people think that adding a third person to spice up your love life is the way to spice things up. I say try all other options before you add another person in your bed. You may find that the candybars & cupcakes you have already have made from scratch is all you to need.  As all ways have sex responsibly.          

Sex Sunsets And Memories

   I always thought that sunsets where the prettiest when you had somebody to share them with. But I was just informed that a sweet memory and some warm lotion and a handy hand towel. Can beat that thought hands down.You know that me being the columnist that I am . I had to get more information and details if I can. So I asked how often can that work ? With a slight giggle candybar said. I have been using it for the past 11 years. So my question was are you trying to make me believe that you have been only using a memory for the past 11 years. He said no of course not . But sunsets are left for memories. OK, she must be some cupcakes. Candybar said she is more like a whole cake not a cupcake. So I asked candybar are you going to give me details or are you going to make me did for gold?
            He told me that I already know the gold and I know the cupcake. So It took me about 1 hour and then it came to me. It was my first visit to Black Bikers weekend. I did not know what to expect. But I did find out very quickly that you can bump into the naked Tango anyplace. Then I remembered a sight I saw on the beach. Involving 3 candybars and 2 cupcakes.  The part that I found so funny is  I happen to know 1 of the other cupcakes and a whole norther candybar and they are a couple now and parents of 2boys. And the candybar that I'm friends with is still friends with them all. But how can you be friends with somebody and every time you see a sunset you still think about his wife and  her cupcakes? How often do you use spank bank memories or look at a friends mate and wounder what they are like sexualy?

The First Date I Won't Ever Forget Part # 2

            Well if you have been following my column, last week I asked my viewers to finish my column so I could talk about it live on Those To Watch radio and get a feel of what you all thought. Some Of you replied on my blog page and some of you e-mailed me. Everything that was sent in was very entertaining and creative and some was even full of sexy adventurous thoughts. That means your sexual juices where flowing. And You Know Stormy Loves That.So here is the conclusion of part #1 The First Date I Will Never Forget. So The first cupcake let them both in and told the Fresh Smelling candybar that I miss understood I thought it would be dinner for 2. The Candybar said that it will be dinner for 2. I just thought it would be a nice gesture to have desert for 3 she (meaning cupcake #2) ate already.
              Well than you miss understood me. Because I don't share my candybars with anybody, and I don't play with others.I am kind of spoiled that way. If you had asked me instead of assuming. You would have known that I am a desert buffet all by myself. So if you and Miss.Cupcake would not mind showing yourself the way out. I have a King size Candybar full of nuts. On his way and we can have dinner,desert and breakfast in the morning . Without having to share even one little crumb. If you get my meaning. As the guest where leaving. The King size Candybar was about to knock on the door. Cupcake #2 said Damn!!! Cupcake #1 said, watch yourself young cupcake I have told you once I don't share and I don't play well with others. Let tonight be a lesson to you both as the fresh smell of Issey Miyake came through the door and he kissed her neck Cupcake smiled and said  goodnight as she closed the door.
                 As you get older we sometimes require a larger variety of deserts but never assume everybody is that way or you could be missing out on some real tasty deserts.When you become a Adult there is a way to go about doing things. That you didn't worry or think about before. That is why it's called Adult hood.       As always respect yourself and others. Never for get to have sex responsibly.

       

The First Date I Won't Ever For Get Part 1

It was  98 degree in the shaded bus stop I dreaded how hot it was going to be on the train. So before I got any hotter I stopped at the fruit stand, said Good morning to the owner and picked up my usual order 1mango 3oranges and 2apples and a extra large cold pineapple &cranberry juice. It looks like another hot day again today the clerk said,I agreed. He then said you forgot your water today? I looked and said Oh,I sure did. A very tall man was standing in front of the cooler and past me a bottle of water as he got 1 for him self.I said thank you he replied anytime with a bright white smile, and filling my nose with the essence of Black coco and Kush. I felt like I was in a trans of some kind because I never heard the clerk tell me the total or give me my change or anything. Talk about a sight to make a blind woman see he had it and I mean he had it all. somehow I grabbed my things and started for the door when I heard , I hope you have a good day! I replied we can if you want to? What, did that really come out of my mouth or was that in my thoughts? Then I heard a loud car horn as I looked up my bus was pulling off into traffic. I guess I will be walking to the library today. If I ever plan to start my report.
      Then I heard this strong voice say you look like you could use a lift. I turned and looked and there he was Mr. Smell So Damn Good. I said I missed my bus. He said I can see that. He asked where was I going ? I told him to the library.But my mind said anyplace your gonna be naked so I could feel and smell your sexy body all over me.He offered to give me a ride. He said that his uncle owner of the store we met at earlier. He says you come in every morning and get the same thing, I call that devotion. I said that its on my way everyday I don't live too far and besides the fruit is always fresh and never bruised. He is also very polite no matter how rude people may be. He always says, have a nice day. You know when I'm running late for class, he has my bag ready for me and he always says have a nice day.  We can pay the tab later with a smile.
          I would like to say thank you again for giving me a ride. By the way how long do you think you will be at the library not sure I have to do this report and I have not even started yet. Well I was just wondering if you and I could get together later. How about if I give you my number and you hit me up when your finish. Sounds good. So I went into the library but I could not keep my mind on my work ,all I could think of is that hot sexy smell oh so good man. I didn't want to sound like I was easy. So I waited until after I went home took a shower and then I called him he asked if I ate yet I said no he great and then he asked if I like Greek food? I said yes. He said he would be to my house in a hour I will call you to get directions after I get the food. Well he did every thing he said except that he would be bringing company a few minutes after they sat down and my phone rang it was a guy I have sex with from time to time  so I  (Cupcakes & Candybars I need you to finish my column) and we will discuss it live on the radio Saturday @7:00pm on Those To Watch radio.www.kinetichifi.com

I Just Could Not Help My Self So I Said Yes

                It's Tuesday the office has been so busy that you can barely get two feet away from your desk before some body calls your name or your phone lights up like a Christmas tree. Good grief when is it going to stop. Lunch time can't get here fast enough today. So once again a attempt was made to grab a cup of water. To no avail this has got to be the busiest Tuesday's ever. WHAT !!!!! could it be true are these ears hearing this correctly  over the PA system. The Main switch board is down and no more calls can come through until the system gets rebooted.Well alright! That generally takes a good 30 min at least. Which will bring a girl right into lunch time. Which adds up to 1 hour and 30 min for lunch.
            As a new Rep walks by smelling like he just had a fresh shower. And dressed to kill with every woman on our floor single and married. He walks next to a lady and he says, with a whole extra 30 min added to our lunch hour what are your plans? The lady looked up from her purse into his soft brown eyes and without knowing it her mouth said You.
          He replied OK. Before she could retract her answer. So she closed down her station and computer then grabbed her keys. Then the two of them walked to the elevator. She started to correct her reply, but then he said that he has been wanting to talk to her for about 5 months now. Ever since he heard her speak at the Netcom Bank conference.
         So the two of them road the elevator down to the parking lot and made the decision to go to a hotel a few blocks away. They could grab something to eat and have each other for a sweet afterthought. Even though they where thinking about sexually enjoying each other during lunch more than enjoying their lunch . They did a little small talk over lunch which was fine and then he said that he has never done anything like this before. She looked at him and smiled then said I do it every chance I get with BOB. He looked at her and said, say that again, who is BOB? She smiled at him then opened her purse towards him and said meet BOB. He and I have been going steady for about 9 months now. He laughed and then said I'm sure you won't need him today. She smiled and said we will see. He smiled back at her and said I am sure of it. He told her to walk to the elevator and he will get the check.The couple made it to the room, she looked at her watch and said we have a hour, he said I was ready when we left the office. They started with kissing at the door, and clothes just started falling off she felt his candy bar and she could not believe the size he told her, its all beef no batteries needed. Now let me get a slice of that Carmel cake you have been hiding under that tight blue skirt.Talk about Great Sex and such strength. From the wall to the window in the bed on the bathroom sink. I'm saying they had some great sex all over that hotel room and he said he got a little rug burn on his back but it was well worth it.He took away all memories of the stress from this morning. Then he said if she didn't mind, he would like her to fire BOB. Because he doesn't want to share this sweet cake with him. And to prove I'm a man of my word. how about we meet back here after work and we can finish anything you have been wanting to do since we first said hello.So she said yes. He was that good she could not say Yes.

What Do We Really Know About Each Other ??????

       How much about me do you know after all the years of us being involved sexually? My guess is less than you think.(Woman) I often over hear you say, I don't know if she would like that. But you never asked me.(Man) I often hear you say he would not try that he stays to himself. But you never asked me.
          Believe it or not, often people say No just because they don't like to do something without even asking their mate. Sometimes the answer is No just because they don't want to try anything new.Or just because they themselves don't want to..People one brain is not designed to think for (2) grown adult people. Snap out of it!!!!! This behavior makes you look like a Control Freak.
          These are called one-sided relationships.I'm here to kind of get in your face and say. There is more than one way to do things.
          So the Best way to try is to talk to each other. Because the views you had before doses not mean it's the same views you have now.How you really feel about sex and how I feel about sex may not even be close to the same views. But, If we don't talk you will never know. Reason being, everything in the world we live in changes. And believe it or not we do change. We even some times become more open minded to some things and closed minded to others. But that is because we live in a world that is constantly changing.
         Please try to understand it from another view other than your own. Everything can't be your way or my way. A relationship  requires us to communicate and express our feelings without judgement. If we are going to be a Us. I do hope this is helpful to you. Mrs.P.                                    As always have sex responsibly. Stormy Weather
         

Getting Caught Smack Dab In The Middle

            Talk about doing things you would have never thought you would get caught doing . Why, because you would think that we as adults should know how to be inconspicuous. The real question is what do you do when you just happen to walk in while it's happening. This past Monday a couple went to a movie early in the day after they had lunch. They thought it would be a good time to go seeing most people like to go to a movie later in the day.  As the couple stood in line for tickets they made small talk with some other people in line.They purchased their tickets then got a few snacks before they went in the movie.  As they entered the theater they past a couple already seated. Both couples gave a head gesture as hello.The ladies just smiled at each other as they past. The couple walked up a few more rows of seats then moved into the middle section of the seats. Just as the lights started dim to and go off a man walked in the theater grabbed a seat and sat down. during the previews of movies to come the man moved his seat over a little. About 40 minutes into the movie the first couple that was seated when you first walked in the theater was doing what appeared to be or looked like they were  having sex. So you try to not pay attention to them and enjoy the movie but this older couple started to get louder. The single man that was by himself moved closer to get a better look. But the elderly couple did not stop. When they where finished the lady got up went to the ladies room.Came back sat down brought the gentle man some towels and finished watching the movie. When the movie was over, the second couple walked down the steps. The guys looked at each other and smiled.
             The older man said that you got to get it when the mood hits Right! The other man said I agree. The single man said I need a cigarette now. The elder man said no you should say Thank You to my wife. I had her for 45 years and although I was making love to her you where able to have sex with your hand with the thought of her. And from the looks of things she is great even in your mind.

Lets Put The Cards On The Table

Men &Women alike it's not unusual for long-term couples to fall into repeating pattern. Which can cause boredom  . But you don't have to. At any age this can happen, you need to know how to handle it so both of your needs are being  met.That being said it's time to Break Out!!!!
         Some of you may be saying to yourself, How can I change this?  The answer is a lot easier than you think. You have let ,every day routine control every aspect of your life. From same meals,same conversations to the same way you make love. But I have good news to help change that.
         There is nothing wrong with experimenting at any age, alone or with your mate. Vibrators and other sex toys can spark up energy for men and women alike. Once you get your juices flowing again with masturbation your desire to be sexy will come alive again. There are lot of adult stores with great stuff you can look at and the staff are very helpful and no question is so far out that they can't help you. The staff in theses adult stores are very knowledgeable about the products they carry.
            Also for those of you who are not ready to try the self gratifying (masturbation) with another person or it has been so long since you have been with somebody. I suggest having a date with yourself and treat yourself the way you want to be treated by a lover. Get into yourself its better to know how you feel about things so you know what you like and what you don't like. Before you allow it to be done by your lover.
             But lets not leave out the other half of people who are not ready or just can not have regular intercourse. All is not lost for you. Sex without intercourse can still be enjoyable  a orgasm can still be achieved with a mind blowing epic experience. Without intercourse,most men tend to think it's not real sex. Some women feel if only the man has the orgasm,they often feel used or cheated. But neither is totally true.
              Truth and a real fact anything that involves a form of sexual stimulation and arousal is considered by law  a form sex,including  but not limited to hand jobs, oral sex, humping your body partner without penetration, slow grinding or dirty dancing if you will and self gratifying(masturbation). Remember you are trying to create a happier,healthier and perhaps a better communication and a greater understanding of each other.
As all ways we are adults have sex responsibly

Some People Don't Like Oral And Still Have Enjoyable Itimacy

         A mature woman of age has brought it to my attention that she dose not like to perform or receive oral sex. It's against her religion. I told her that I have heard that before. She wanted to know, is that really mandatory in this day and age and I told her no. A lot of people don't just because they don't like it.
         Another woman e-mailed me with a similar situations. I also know a couple that is dealing with ED (for those of you who do not know ED stands for Erectile Dysfunction ) Dealing with this can be very hard on a couple regardless the age.
           So without penetration or oral sex how are we supposed to make love to each other? I want to make sure that there is a clear understanding of what I'm about to say. You don't have to be physically inside of someone or have someone physically inside of you or perform oral sex in order to make love. Making love is not only physical ,but it's mental and emotional. You have to have a certain respect, courtesy and appreciation.Couples need to pay attention to the things that made you love your mate before you ever became physically involved..Sexuality Never Dies!!!!!! It can hide or go on a long vacation. But Never Dies.
           It is a proven fact all relationships do not consist of penetration nor do they consist of oral sex. Unlike many years ago. Masturbation is not taboo. It's very natural men and women of all ages have found it to be very relaxing and often it helps bring the sexy itimacy back into their relationship. It's not something you have to do alone, you can do it to and for each other. With the lights on or off it's still sex . Do you remember when you used to put on music turn the lights down low so you could dance slow. What is stopping you from doing that now? Believe it or not, that was the matting call and if you got a slow wind and grind on, soft kisses on the neck, heavy breathing, pressing your body parts together. Now they are moving as one! In the middle of the dance floor fully dressed and it feels Sooooo Good. Don't Stop Now You Are Having Sex.
              You should never try to box out a sex style that may work for a few and try to make it a lovemaking style for all.
       

Last Curtin Call Till Death Do Us Part

Last curtain call is when you put on your very Best. Give your very best that way the other person sees that you are the best When Sex, Love, Friendship, Trust and Marriage are involved spot light, scene sets ,and wardrobes are always important Every woman wants to be a Headliner and Every man want to be the Leading man  not the costar.
          So make sure if you want to be treated like a star in your relationship. Than you need to perform star like quality, and except nothing less from your mate. If your doing your level best why should you get less than that in return.  Set the standards so they know what you want and they will also see what you are capable of. Make you partner bring their best, And You bring out your best. The experience will be amazing, and why shouldn't it be. Now the key to keeping it like that is to talk to each other and really hear the other person out. Before you say No or I Can't and be honest about what you would like or you think you would like to try.
           As long as the 2 of you have been together. You should be able to talk about your thoughts and fantasy if you can't you both have bigger problems than spicing up your sex life. When you can't talk openly to each other and you are committed to each other. Your relationship is facing sudden death and you will part. Because some one is going to wounder what life would be like if they where with some body more like the fantasies in their minds That is when all the sneaking, lying,betrayal comes in .Just because you all did not give and get the Stars performance from each other and did not talk about what it is you desire
          A good way to open the doors is role playing some of you may be say what? get out of here. But it can help and if you try to really get into character you may find out you enjoy it and your mate can do the same. But if you don't talk you will never know.

22 years Of Marriage And I Don't Enjoy Sex

         How is it possible that after 22 years of marriage, 5children a woman can fix her mouth and say I don't enjoy her sex life. When I asked her do you love your husband ? She said yes with a big smile. I asked if she was happy she had children? She said Yes and I'm very proud of my children. I often look at them as babies still. My husband and I did not get married until we had our second child.When the second child was 3years old. We where expecting a set of twins. Can you believe that?Then when the twins where only 1year old. She said My husband and I went to see the doctor because a bad flu was going around and everybody was getting sick. she was so worried for her children  they where so young. Then before she knew it. She was sick but unlike the children she was sick day and night,So back to the doctors we went. Only to find out she did not only have the flu, but She was also going to have baby number 5.
          She always looked at their children as a blessing. The lady and her husband are both a only child. So they felt blessed to have children. So I had to ask the big question. Why don't you enjoy your sex life?.  When I asked she said that over the years when she had sex the end result was the she got pregnant. So basically she never enjoyed the romance of going out with her husband , simply enjoying long walks, listening to music dancing or kisses behind the knee, stroking her hair or rubbing her ears. She said the sex takes about 10-18 min. He is done feeling like a king and she feels like let me go to squeeze cold water and vinegar.And pray I killed anything left behind she  said and then she said, Well I hope I don't have to do it anymore this week.  So I told her that she should try to introduce some things into her bed room, to assist with the spice in her sex life. So she emailed me so I emailed her back and I gave her some pointers. So Monday she emailed me and said thank you it worked.  Im Glad I was able to help.

Hold My Hand And I Will Hold Your Heart

What is the best part about your mate? This is a important part of your relationship so before you answer think about it. You can be in a relationship for years and still be clueless to who they are. Are you in this relationship because of what gets done for you? Or because a child was made so you kind of just stuck it out. Is it because of sex or is it you can do what ever you want and you have convinced yourself that your mate is not going any where because they need you.
            Did You Hear That POP!!!!!  That was the pin in your fantasy bubble. When you find your self in a real relationship, commitment or marriage. They come with high price points and I'm not talking about money. We are talking about something more valuable emotions,feelings,admiration,love we are talking about the heart. Now although it only about the size of your fist when it is tightly closed. Its very strong and powerful but at the same time very fragile oragan.
           That why, whether they know  it or not lovers often hold hand, When someone is dear to you and they are hurt you hold their hand to let them know you are there and they are not alone.That is a silent and nonverbal way of saying I got your heart and I wont let you get hurt.
             But some place in the hustle and the rat race of life we forget to still hold our lover's hand. To let them know that I'm still with you. It may sound strange but if you where to see your mate holding hands with somebody other than you. You first response is, what is going on here?. That is because that is your hand they should be holding. You don't have to admit it your heart feels it. Because when you first got together and started this relationship without saying a word. That is your heart you are sharing.When you to where holding hands. So if it has been a while hold your mate's hand and remind them your still here.

Back In The Day People Use To Talk Face To Face They Called It Communicating

            Everyone says talk about what you want, but they never tell you how!!! Dose that saying apply to everyone.?Well please let me try to help. Meet in public places only. It's been proven that it's easy to talk in public because you are forced to keep your voice down, and in a controlled environment you won't embarrassed your self or the other person. Now agree not to use trigger words that sets the other person off . Seeing that you know this person you already know what triggers them. And you never start off by saying I hate when you do this, or I don't like it when. That will turn on the war sign and that's not what you want.
         Now lets start by asking each other can we talk open for a few minutes? There are some things I would like to discuss with you, But I don't want you to think I'm trying to start something I just want to talk. Then go on to say Do you remember when we use to do what ever it may be.Tell your mate that you miss that in your relationship. What can we do to get that back? They may tell you they miss some stuff to. Or do you remember when we where having our special time.? It felt like it was rushed or you really was not into it.
          You are both adults communicate to each other  about your feelings and listen to what the other person says. You may find that they are not comfortable doing it or they may not be comfortable with their own technique.Try asking your mate what type of things they like instead of just assuming that what your doing fells good . Because it may not or they may want more of it to get them to the breaking point.Or they may not like it at all.But if you don't talk you will never know.
          More often than not its simple things that you miss. Which you can turn everyday relations to the most mind blowing and enjoyable experience ever. But if you can't talk to each other than why are you having relations with each other, With are clothes on . Why take them off?
        If it's just about a climax than why bother to involve other people, learn how to do it by your self. But if your looking to have a mate, you have got to communicate.
           
               

Money Is Not Romance Its Only Paper True Romance You Can't Buy, It Has To Come From The Heart

       The other day I went to see my doctor, then stopped for a cup of coffee. I saw this couple laughing out loud. They looked so happy.  I said hello and told them my name and then I asked if you dont mind may I ask how long have the two of you been married? The man answerd with a big smile  for 57years and still counting .
         So I asked if they would not mind  I would like to interview them. I wright a column about to keeping the spice in a marriage.  They both said yes with a smile. When they told me about their life from years ago to now. I was for lack of a better word speechless and I most say quite stoned . Just for the simple fact that .People who have been together that long and they still find ways to make each other laugh and I mean out loud.It"s amazing to me still.I asked if they had any kids They only had 1 child unfortunately they lost him in to the war in Afghanistan.I told them I'm sorry to hear that.
         When this couple first married they didn't have much. But they made due with what little they had. They told me that they ate alot of soup and or just cheese sandwiches. Until he got a job as a butcher. He kept that job even though it did not pay much. Because he had a wife and soon a child to care for.The wife told me how he used to bring her a peace of fruit from a market he used to pass everyday on his way home.
           But Fridays was their spacial night 2slices of pizza and a soda pop with a candle. Even though times got better for them over the years . They had a child to raise and to teach him that there is a right and a wrong way to do everything .Always remember to mind your manners no matter what others may do. Because you are a representation of your parents. They both said that their son made them proud.
           Over the years a lot has changed from when they first meet. Life all around them has changed. They have been to so many funerals of friends and family that have past on . But Friday night was still their special night. Even these days they can afford a whole pie. They still get 2 slices 1 soda  and a candle and some old tunes as they called it just to keep the spice in their life. He said he sometimes gets a good fresh shave & She said sometimes she may get a few pin curls. In case they may go out for the pizza. I told them both Thank You. May Their Romance live for ever. Before I left I brought them cupcakes.They gave me one back and said we still like to share.

Weather Can Change Things Learn How To Change With It

So the weather changed things a little bit outside and you have been planning this little get away for a weeks. do you chuck it up as lost or what? Lets go with the or what. Meaning start with the enviorment. You are trying to avoid the weather at all cost, and trust me it can be done. First how do you bring your get away inside? Computers are amazing you can download and print pictures of the place you planned to go to and hang them around. Next create a CD with the type of music you would like to hear. Next the food you planned to eat Now a days, you can have food from many restaurants that will deliver to you. Now about service with a smile. I am sure you can find a good friend willing to help you with your date.They don't have to talk much just serve the two of you and walk out.Come back and ask you if everything is as you requested.Go into your kitchen clean up put out the trash. Don't forget to leave a nice tip. And when you hear them say goodnight. That is your code word to let the sweet romance begin.
               Going the extra mile despite the weather says a lot to your lover. So excuse your self get up lock the doors  go to your bedroom light a few candles and sprinkle a few silk rose peddles all over the bedroom. Now go back to your lover and show your mate how much they mean to you. After dinner take them by the hand and lead them to your bedroom of romance and make love as if you will never be able to make love to them again.
               So your get away just changed from a weekend to a Great Night and if you did it right a real nice morning with breakfast in bed. And maybe even round #2. So don't let the weather determine how good or how great you are.Learn how to change with the weather.
               Cupcakes & Candy bars you know my advice all the time . Your are a Adult have sex responsibly

Sunsets And Moonlight Through Vacation Eyes

You are never too old or too young to enjoy beauty. So keep this in mind as you read on. Things have a beautiful view when your on vacation. You look at things differently. For those of you who don't know what I'm talking about just listen and in a minute you will see what I mean.                        
           You get up in the morning to get ready for school or work or just to get your family out to start their day. You look at the sun and you just say it looks like it might be a nice day.Moonlight we don't take the time to look at because we have to get ready for tomorrow.
            NOW  VACATION EYES. when you take the time to slowdown with your love and you are no longer rushing around you can see how beautiful the sun is from the soft pillow under your head and your lovers arms wrapped around you after you made sweet love to each other and now you to are gazing out of the window. You don't have to wounder if it's going to be a nice day you al ready know it is.  Now as the day moves on and you to are enjoying the scenery you look at the sky as the sun is going down and it looks as if it is full of watercolors  shades of orange,yellow,red and salmon. For some reason it's so beautiful that it's sexy.
             Now day has turn to night but the sky really its not black at all. It's mixed  more like the deepest darkest blue ,dust of light grey puffs of color you never notice before. Yet the sky is full of light with stars so bright they look like glitter . The moon  is so full that it illuminates the sky, that a over whelming desire comes over you to make love. All you need now is that soft kiss from your lover. You will be heading back to your hotel room if you can make it, to make love by moonlight. But if the sun and the moon are in the sky nomatter where you are why do you have to be on vacation to enjoy the beauty. And why is it only then we see the sexy beauty in our loved ones .

Things In Life Happen But When You Love Each Other You Can Get Through It

As everybody knows I write true life stories.The names are deleted but the stories are true.Now lets just get into it.
             So just trying to get through a regular work week for some people. Can feel damn near impossible. Now add in deadlines from your boss, a marriage to somebody that means the world to you. And now you find out that your health is starting to fail you. So what do you do? Its easy in the begging first finish the job, then offer to train a qualified candidate to replace your self. Then hand in a  3 weeks notice. Because you have 2 things that must have your undivided attention.So now you must talk to your spouse to make sure the 2 of you are on the same page. Now the couple needs to talk to the doctors needed to make you well. So far so good right? wrong? You are taking lots of test and brick wall keep popping up left and right . In the mean time a strong toll is taking on your marriage. But because the love that you to share, you try to make the best of things. Even when pain and depression, tries to over shadow the special times the 2 of you should be making and try to be making love.You feel like you just can't win. One half feels like if they do it will hurt too much. The other feels like your going through enough that they don't want to ask about it.
             But it doesn't have to be that way. I know a couple who has found a way to share and spend their special moments .  You can make love and share those special moments without doing the traditional sexual act. When you love a person you can find ways to make love,that will be so full of chemistry, amazing and special  so much so,That not being able to have sex the ways you use to won't be so hard on your marriage. That in fact it may even strengthen it. Remember for better or worst, sickness and health. That's Love and That's a Marriage. Those 7words mean something.         As always remember to be adults ,and have sex responsibly

Dreams ComeTrue And True Love Conquers All

Its never too late when your in love.  A man and a woman had been together for 17 years. In some states its called common law marriage. In some other states it not.  But they have raised 2 children for whom they are very proud of. The oldest will graduate this year and the second child has 1 year left of high school. But after 17 years they decided that they are getting married. But just didn'tknow when. Their children where shocked because they never knew that their parents never been married. The reason why they never married is not important. So one of the kids decided to ask why didn't you 2 ever get married. So the father said life happen first we planned to marry and the family's didn't get along then , I got deployed your mother went to college and then  we had you and your sister. So in a nut shell life happened. I always wanted to give her the wedding of her dreams. The mother said that she didn't want it to be a strain on them financially. Besides after all these years who cares? The kids replied we care about y'all dreams just like you care about our dreams.
        So 2 weeks ago  was 17 years that the couple has been together. So their kids invited everybody they could think of to come to their church and ask them not to contact their parents. Just to attend the service and please don't be late. They talked to the pastor of their church to perform a mocked ceremony for their parents. The church was filled with people that they had not seen in years. Plus close friends and co-workers. The son brought the wedding bands and the daughter brought the flowers . The son's classmate took pictures along with other's people who used their cell phones.  A friend booked them a reservation at a nice hotel for 2 nights.
          The parents said that it was the best anniversary ever. It was simple but filled with love ones,friends  and their children made their day unforgettable. In the end money is not important, time may pass but true love conquers all.

If Your Not Scared Life And Sex After 65 Is Great

Getting a E-mail last Thursday was nice and very humbling it made me feel like good to know that people of all ages read my column. This woman wrote me to say thank you . She and her 3rd husband of 5 years, just had a anniversary 2 weeks ago. They booked a 4 day cruise and seeing they never had a honeymoon.This was their honeymoon she went and got her hair and nails done. She even wore colors she has never wore just because her granddaughter told her to try something new. Anyway she said that after reading some of my columns she got a few new ideas in her head and she was going to use this cruise to express her sexual side.She wrote in her e-mail, Thank You Having sex on a deck in the middle of the ocean is better than on a balcony over looking the ocean. She also said its very exciting seating at the captains table with no panties on and rubbing your husband hand on your thigh and then sliding his hand up a little higher to your cupcake as you call it, Wow talking about a real great turn on and he didn't even need those little blue pills. We played some of the games with the other passenger. We  even went dancing we also listened to a real nice band some couples got up and danced. But we didn't she goes on to say. Because she was stuck to her chair while her husband was massaging her cupcake. Then back to their cabin for some love making. She goes on to say that when it comes to sex you are only as old as you feel . When you have somebody who does not want to live in a box and has always lived like a arrow. Its fun to explore another life and rediscover the things that are natural to you. And you are never too old  to enjoy them. Thank you for reminding us of that. When we got home my sexy husband said to me I hope we don't need to go away to enjoy each other like we did on the cruise. I also died my hair and we both got suntans and henna tattoos.

The Pleasure Pleasing Of Cupcakes & Candybars

So to my shock and surprise a friend of mine differently miss understood what these sweet words of endearment meant. They both have 3 meanings so before there are anymore misunderstanding, I want to clear the air for anyone else who may fill as my friend did.
Cupcakes- (1)single size serving of a cake dressed up like a large cake but just enough for 1person.(2) Every woman is beautiful in her own right just like when you walk into a bakery and all of the cupcakes are dressed and on display.(3) It's also used for those of you who maybe reading my column at work or at home  and don't want people to know what your reading about.
Candy bars-(1) around the world it a treat,typically chocolate bar ergo the name candy bar.Can be sold in any store that sell snacks.(2) Every man has a candy bar sizes may vary from mini ,standard ,king size ,Dark chocolate,Milk chocolate, White chocolate. They are always full of nuts.(3)It's also used for those of you who may be reading my column at work or at home and don't want people to know what they are reading about.
Now that we have cleared that up, next week can we go back to spicing up our personal lives with our love ones. I'm here to assist you all in how to put the spark back into your relationship. As long as 2 people still love each other , there is a way to rekindle the flame you once shared. Remember just as you have feelings so do they.Respect their passion sweets so they can respect yours.

Change The View From What One See's And The Performance Will Change

The truth hurts so I have been told.But some times a lie can hurt just as bad . I guess that is where my aunt would say( put a cover on it.) this phrase has a few meanings. For example Everybody doesn't need to know what the hell you are doing all the time. Or your mouth can stand to use some manners whether your cursing or just bring disrespectful. or perhaps when you are talking to your lover. Remember you are not the only one with feelings no matter how strong you are inside or outside. So that being said you should not say things like, (Can you hurry up already) Or (Dose it feel good like this) and the person is barley working or getting them in the mood . If the person says no your just going in and out or up and down. The truth is your feelings are going to be hurt. What happens if they are saying yes that's it just to get you to finish up or they are using a spank bank in  their head.Your feelings are going to be hurt.
That's why you need to put some effort in you sexual escapade's. This is not a job for just women its a job for men to. If you are clueless in to how. Think of places you would like to go or you may want to try but I urge you not to judge your mate or to reject every suggestion. because it can hurt your relationship faster than it helps. You also need to be fare about your request or desires. I can say that because a lot of men want to have 2 women at once. But he is not willing to share the woman with another man. Believe it or not the same problem happens in a bi-sexual committed relationship.

So with all of that being said it is best to explore and exhaust all  your sexuality with just you and your mate. Role playing can help. But go all out change the atmisphere, find the right music, even the food. scene setters are nice. Now a days you can go on the world wide web and find out how to create these special encounters with your mate. When you are trying to spiceup your sex life you have to put in some work and some effort and please be a little creative. Everything dosen't cost alot of money. You may spend a few dollars, but in the end it will be worth it.
 Before you bring in a third person. Because it can turn into a very one sided situation and not for the greater good. 

How Often Do You Take The Stairs?

I know that a lot of you must be saying that I have really gone crazy now. But I promise I have not. I'm not talking about exercising to lose weight. I'm talking about really taking the stairs and sexercising. Just think of the extra leverage you can get. You are not going to fall off any thing if you are receiving or you are the giver during oral sex. Or if your are so excited that you are just going to  get right into it. Don't twist your face up like that. Hear me out, Lets just say, you like to do it standing up . But the height difference between you makes it difficult. Here is when the stair become a good aid. If your man lies down on the incline. You will be able to ride him and he will be able to penetrate you and his balance won't be thrown off.( Don't judge, I know it can be done.) You know the stairs won't be moving like the bed. Ladies you don't have to be on your knees, lets face it he is stronger than you are so he should be on the bottom.  And if you do it right, who knows you just might lose a pound not like we are trying to.  But you will lose that sexual tension that has been building since dinner. You know what I am talking about now , Don't You. I thought you would.  By the way you know this move is not limited  to the stairs in your house. If the need for a adventure come into play. Or you have this unbelievable urge for a Candy bar or He wants a Cupcake. He is going to need a jacket to rest his head on. While the two of  you  will be enjoying the excitement remember don't get caught by the police. But enjoy your sex life, and you know my model. We are Adults have sex responsibly

I Still Want To Be Sexy! Don't You?

I hear this often it's really nothing new. Women say I try to do things to make him look or say (wow honey you sure do look good today)or (wow what is the special occasion can we go to bed instead?) You get the picture. But why don't the men in our life do the same for us .It's pretty simple, believe it or not he's got you now. And the two of you are in LOVE. Believe it or not when you look good he feels good especially when somebody tells him how good you look. That also makes him look like he is taking good care of you.                                                                                                                     So relax take a deep breath and lets get started.Remember he doesn't see things as you do so lets  start with some thing simple. Buy him a few shirts to replace the one's he wears often and go out and buy him some cologne you think will smell good on him. (remember you got to like it you picked it) Now for no reason at all go to a movie or out to dinner just the two of you. You already know he is going to ask what's going on your answer should be. I just thought I would do something for the man I love. He is gonna look at you at first . He's gonna think that you have a ulterior motive, and he is kinda of right. But not in a negative way.  Men don't like to be told what to do. No more than you do. But If you in a nice and easy and light way you show him that these little things make him look sexy to you he just might get the hint.You can't attack him like some crazed woman or a nagging nightmare. That means don't try to get in the middle of basketball or football games or his card night with the guys. But do try and take the initiative to go for long walks together hold hands, go someplace and have coffee or tea or even a ice cream cone.And remember the phones should not be part of the date. It's the first steps in becoming sexy to each other. But if you don't start with the little things he can;t remember the sweet sexy things he used to do that made you feel all mushy inside.So don't give up, it's not over. It just takes a little recon. But remember if he is trying to please you, please do the same for him.

Wine,Tea , Coffee Or Me, Let's Say Around 3:00

It was such a very nice day. The office was going to be closing early today for a nice long three day weekend. So imagine the surprise when when the call came to meet at this nice restaurant on Washington and Vine. When we arrived the waiter showed us to a cosy table in the center of a bay window, soft white sheer drapes accent with brass tiebacks, soft white vanilla scented candles. The waiter poured 2 glasses of  sweet white wine. Another waiter then placed a plate with warm loafs of rye bread &butter on the table.  He then asked if they would like to change anything on the pre -ordered meal. The gentleman said no, the lady agree. The salad was served then the main course followed. As the waiter departed the table he left a small silver bell and unhooked the sheer drapes for privacy for the couple.
Before they completed their meal the gentleman said to the lady that he wanted her now. She replied right now? he said yes as he pushed the plates and wine out of the way.As the couple hugged,kissed and quietly made love in their private room at the Bertrand. They had never done anything like that before. But it was so beautiful romantic exciting and sexy. They have always been very traditional in the way they made love. When one is a accountant and the other is a physical therapist it seems like they consumed their life with their careers and not the sensitive parts of a marriage life romance.
But as you have read it takes just one afternoon to start a new and welcoming change to your romantic love life. Don't let your career take over your marriage. You may have to work a little harder at it but you will be so thankful you did.

The Anniversary Is Only A Few Months Away

Seeing that I can count these are just estimates.But you will see my point. In a 7 year marriage we manage to have 2,555 dinners 168 movie nights and sex at least.3,287 or something close to that.Which means that dinner or a movie or given my best in a bedroom is not going to cut it this year.  Jewelry, I buy for her just because. She is not impressed by things you can buy. That is why, I helped plant flowers that bloom all year and a rose bush that blooms every spring so we could have fresh flowers in the house. Because that is your thing.  When your not feeling well, I could pinch off just 1 being careful not to stunt their growth and bring it to your bedside with some hot tea or orange juice and aspirin. Just to say I love you and  that you are still just as beautiful to me.
You wake me up every morning for work even when I kept you awake with my snoring. My shirts always look brand new.Who sews, repairs and cleans my clothes or protects my health and well being.  No one but you. You find the time to have lunch with me at 2:00 You always listen to my speech 1,000 times before I bring it to the board. You are The Best host when I need to entertain a new client. You work that kitchen like a chef every time you go in and something good always comes out.You make heads turn when you walk in a room and I'm proud to say that's my wife.The  sexual intensity and the adventures we have shared could not have come from any script. Vacations are  always full of energy,even the one we spent at home. I look forward to you reading me poetry as we recline next to each other or just sitting on the porch enjoying the fresh air. Playing cards with you or serenading each other with songs from the radio. I'm glad that I have done these things with you
We may not always see eye to eye . We may even disagree. But the most important part is that we respect and love each other A Great man is a Husband and a Wife is she. Happy Anniversary To Husband & Wife

Enjoying Sex Again In The Other Stage Of Life And It's Still Good

Happy days are back after 18 years of marriage and 3 children, 2 grandchildren and a column called Lets Talk Like Adults. My parents have been married for 18 years but the spice has been missing for along time. So I told my mother about your column that I read and so she started reading them.( Says a reader that emailed me Thursday.) The reader goes on to say, she talked her parents into going on a long weekend away for a little quality time just the 2 of them. That was a month ago. She goes on to say that she and her mother went out for lunch and she asked her mother how was the weekend. Her mothers reply was which weekend with a light smile. Curious, she said the one you went on, when you went to New Hampshire, why are you smiling like that was it that good? The woman replied it was better than good, it was great! we had so much fun and we even had sex like we did years ago. We watched the sun rise from our balcony as we snuggled in our blanket naked. We never felt so full of life and sexy. The woman told her daughter thank you. Because of you, your father and I have found the thing we fell in love with  years ago.We had such a good time and we went horseback riding on a snowy trail came back to the cabin and made love near a fireplace and I felt beautiful. He looked at me in away he had not done in years.It was so exciting and there was nobody around to say they needed us for anything. It was The Best time we have had in years. The woman also said that she and her husband  made a promise that they would not let time pass them by with out enjoying it anymore.
                  After I read the email in its entirety I was so happy to hear that my column helps people breath life back into their sex life. I hope when people read my columns they become inspired to enjoy sex as they once did or that its better than it was before.You are supposed to enjoy life and sex is a part of life. All I ask, is that you do it responsibly.

So Board With Sex, But I Still Love You

How can this be so? You are so in love with your spouse or mate but sexually you are board.  What has changed, that something that used to make your insides ache to have  has become so stagnant. Do you even know what has happen to the enjoyment that the 2 of you once shared. OK I will tell you . The care you put into getting ready is gone. All the extras you use to do are just not worth it , so you say. That shower he used to take when he did that extra wash under his scrotum or how about  that good scrubbing  you use to make sure  your tail smelled good for when you want to ride him backwards. Why don't the two of you do it in the shower anymore.
                 All of these changes stems from one reason and one reason only you all are too comfortable  in your relationships. Some of you feel like if the other person wants it. let them get it like it is. Wrong! Some of you say that you have a career and don't have time to be doing all that extra stuff like putting on a little lotion. Or brushing your teeth when you know that your going to be breathing in some body's face. Why can't you put that scarf on after you are finish, you didn't wear it when you first started having sex back in the day. Why now.?  or how about the one I love the most. You can't be serious I have a early morning tomorrow,  can we do this later? Well didn't you have a job when you first started getting The Cookie. All these excuses are just that. Meaning you don't have any real reason. And Please Stop!!!! Using The Kids as a reason. Put their tails to bed early, so you can get some tail. You have got to put some effort in your sex life in order to have a sex life . You don't want crumbs so why are you expecting your mate to like them. Lets try a little exercise include these little things before we engage in the boring sexual act. #1 act as if you have never had sex with this person so take your time in the shower and wash everything. #2 brush and gargle you will be breathing in someones face. #3a little lotion and a little smell good can go a long way . #4 put on some music to set the mood and a candle won't hurt it could only help. #5 Lay the alarm clock down you don't need to know how long is this going to take.#6 Don't rush it, take the time to enjoy foreplay.Remember if you enjoy oral sex done to you . Your mate should enjoy the same pleasure from you. Don't be selfish, make it count.  It will make the sex that much better.

Sexual Freedom Why Should You Be Denied The Luxury

If we as people where more responsible and took ownership over our actions we would have more freedom to say what we want and what we like. Whether it is what we do to other people or what we like done to us. The truth is most people hide their true sexual self and often from their own selves. This past Monday a man e-mailed me just to say I wish I could hear everything you said at one of your events. My lady of 7 years, reads your column faithfully myself I don't have the time. But anyway. He goes on to say that during a Superbowl party this past Sunday. His team was getting their ass handed to them. Which sucks because he was real excited about having this big party considering they just brought a new house overlooking the beach. Her family has finally excepted him and he just got a promotion at work. So he goes on to say, it was nice to have his friends over to watch the Superbowl but his team was loosing and that sucks. With all that was going on and his friends where giving him the shit, His lady said in his ear with a smile (no matter which teams wins the Superbowl after your guest leave it will all be a distant memory.) He looked at her and said yea right. 
        So the game was over his team lost and he had to payup  his friends where getting themselves together to go. They thanked his lady for everything and said goodnight. As he locked the door  she was walking  in the kitchen when he heard her say why don't you go out on the deck and I will bring you something. He said OK but nothing prepared him for what happened next. His lady came out on the deck with only a pair of high heels on. She told him that she has been waiting for Superbowl night for 5 weeks, and she plans to make it a night he will never forget.  The sexual experience that night was amazing. The 2 of them broke the recliner chair and a planter but It was so exciting and invigorating that he  didn't care. He went on to say that she has been more adventurous since she started reading your column that we are more open with each other now. So Thank You for everything. Because the columns you wright, like you said before is to help keep the spice and fire in couples relationships,and that is what you do . You don't tell people they have to do it, but you give couples little scenarios and you let them make the decision for themselves. By the way, he goes on to  say his lady  was also right  he can't remember what the score was or even memorable plays from the game.

Business Phone Calls Will Never Be The Same

There was this women who emailed me, I have assisted her in her relationship of 13 years. She and the gentleman have 3 children together. They both work very hard to maintain their family, and each other. Any way back to the email. They try to make sure they make time for some Good knockout I can't believe we did it 3 times sex. She had to email me and tell me thank you. I smiled when I received the email. In the email she said that her boss has been out of town trying to open another office branch. So she is working longer hours than she use to, and her days off are gone for another month at least. Her lover called her in the middle of the day to see how her day was going . She said to him it was a terrible day so far and she cant see any sunshine. He said he wish he could do something. She agreed with him and at that moment the other line rang I got to go babe.  So she said he knew he had a 2 hours before the kids got out of school. So he went to her office. As she said before she was busy and the person on the other end of the phone was irate so went around her desk lifted up her skirt and gave her some oral sex and pulled out her personal vibrator out of his pocket. he told her don't worry  handle your call and he would handle the woman. When he finished satisfying her, he went to the bathroom to wash his face. Grabbed  her a cold drink out of the machine. Put it on her desk and told her try to keep that feeling until you get home. Because there is more where that came from when you get home. Every call after that was a breeze and the office meeting at 3:30p was so smooth that she almost didn't remember it. I once told her to give him that service for his birthday. But its plain to see it dose not need to be a holiday to get some good stress relief  in the middle of the day or when your on the phone. But it can feel like a holiday if it's done right.

Lets Talk Like Adults: Getting A Sexy Quickie Is Easier Than You Think

Lets Talk Like Adults: Getting A Sexy Quickie Is Easier Than You Think: How did your life get so busy that you forgot how to make time for a Quick Stash and  what I mean by that is, stash some feel good in your f...

Lets Talk Like Adults: The Little Things Can Mean So Much

Lets Talk Like Adults: The Little Things Can Mean So Much: Hey Cupcakes, Happy Wednesday I often get asked if I travel back to Boston often. The truth is, not as often as I would like but I do go.  I...

Lets Talk Like Adults: Ok I Did It Now Get Off Of Me

Lets Talk Like Adults: Ok I Did It Now Get Off Of Me: Why is it that something so beautiful can turn into this boring act or a form of punishment or for some, a way to shut someone the hell up s...

Ok I Did It Now Get Off Of Me

Why is it that something so beautiful can turn into this boring act or a form of punishment or for some, a way to shut someone the hell up so that they can stop acting like its been so long that you hear  "are you still in love with me ? or is there someone else?"  With all that we do in a day. Are you saying that its  against some law that I don't feel like sex right now.  Is there something wrong with setting the mood. When did I & Why am I  The New Sleeping Pill. Can we put on some nice music, light a few candles or put on some of that nice smelling cologne you know they like. Every night cant be so sexy and sensual . But every night should not be  a knock out drag out 15 min your done either.
But in  some bedrooms that is what its like. To be honest its not fare to your mate or to your self. So what are you going to do to change it. Take some pride in what your giving out and what you are receiving. Also think about the person your in bed with, If your giving half handed sex then what do you think they should give to you. All I am saying is , Why should one get the holiday meal and the other one gets crumbs. Its time to make time for your lover. So you can enjoy the art of making love and enjoy the feelings that come along with it. Once upon a time you two could not get enough of each other. Do a little recon and find out how to make it happen again. Don't wait too long or think its too late to fix it . You still have sex now . You just don't have any spice in it.  If you need help  email me at stormy.weather67@yahoo.com. I am always willing to help.

The Little Things Can Mean So Much

Hey Cupcakes, Happy Wednesday I often get asked if I travel back to Boston often. The truth is, not as often as I would like but I do go.  I must say, I do still have a few friends that live in the city and the surrounding areas .  I wish I was there this past Monday Some friends of mine went out to a jazz spot I use to patronize from time to time. Called Wally's on Mass Ave, It's a cool place to go to and you always see somebody you know. Anyway a friend of mine was there this past Monday and she met up with some co-workers. There was this very sexy woman there, she sees her on the 7:30 train every morning. But Monday night was different. She struck up a conversation with her and found out that the woman worked in the same field as my friend, she has a dog lives in the south end and  drinks  sweet cosmopolitan like myself. Which is nice, because you can drink but still have your wits about yourself. She is also single like my friend. So they grabbed a few drinks and joined her co-workers. The night was perfect. after the club they walked for awhile more small talk before they knew it they where at the lady's brownstone she kissed her goodbye but the kiss lasted longer than any goodbye kiss she ever had. It was so sweet it taste like jellybeans they made love  by the color stained glass window in her front room, her skin was  soft like cashmere. It has been so long since she felt another woman's body other than her own . It felt like Christmas. When my friend called me to tell me about this amazing woman. The only thing I could think of is . I'm so glad that she has found some body. My friend has been to 2 of my Lets Talk Like Adults Live events and she said that She didn't think she could have done it without me. Because her heart has been broken before.   I told her thank you. But the first hello is always the hardest. You will never know what you have in common with somebody. Unless you say hello. Now all I ask is that she tells other people that I am just a click away.

Attention AttentionTo All My Cupcakes

Attention!!! Attention!!! Attention!!!!!! To All My cupcakes, I am sorry to inform you all that due to unforeseen situations beyond my control. The Lets Talk Like Adults Live with Stormy will be moved to a new date which is Friday January 24th. It will still be at Bamboo Lounge 2810 Ashley Phosphate rd. North Charleston , SC   Advance tickets are $7.00  or  $10.00 at the door.  Doors will be open at  6:30pm show time is 7:00pm.  I hope to see you all  there.  I do hope that the date change is not a hindrance. Because we plan to have lots of fun. So I do hope to see you all there. 

                                                                                               Hugs & Kisses from Stormy

Dinner With Your Love In A Nice Resturant Can Be Full Of Surprizes

Yesterday I went to Starbucks as I often do. Met up with a friend that works over at Trident Tech. We talked about whats going on in each other's world. In the mix of everything  as usual sex makes it's way into coffee talk. Which is nothing new for me. Anyway my friend mentioned that dinner dates with their lover has become very mundanes. So I said that I hear about things like this a lot. You are not alone. I told them that, dinner for most couples is nothing exciting. They go out often enjoy each others company enjoy dinner have a little small talk or celebrate a special occasion now and then and that's it. But now its time to change it up a little. Not saying that dinner with your love isn't good but you can make it better. What do I mean by that is the question that was asked over coffee.  Just before I was about to answer, A guy says, I hope I'm not being too nosey but please tell me how to change things I take my girlfriend out every year for her birthday and that time again is next Tuesday. I know that she has to be tired of shop talk so to speak.
So I said that it's time you put  a new spin on the old dinner date. First where and the time  you go to dinner is important You never want to go during a time it will be crowded at the restaurant. How you get there is important no matter who is driving Don't Park close to the door off to the side where its a little dark or shaded is perfect. Easy access clothing is important. This is to help make you workup a good appetite. Pull out a battery operated bullet.  Now don't do it so much that the 2of you got to go back home. Remember you have dinner plans. Now when you get in the restaurant you want a table that is tucked away from the other guest. So you can feel each other under the table. But remember to be discreet your in public. Now remember that little toy your holding in your pocket. Don't take it out anymore until your dinner is on the table and your wait staff has come to your table and asked if everything is OK. Then you can take out the toy, but remember to keep it out of sight. You may use it again but remember you can't work it until you climax because you  are having dinner. Now if it gets too hot to finish dinner pay the ticket get your dinner to go. Then make it home remember to drive the speed limit and enjoy your lover and let them enjoy you. Now no matter when you go to dinner you will always have the memory of that night you will never forget and your lover won't forget it ether. As always enjoy life be kind to each other and remember to have sex responsibly.

Happy New Year To One And All

Welcome to the new year, So people often start out with all the things they want and what they will change for the new year. Often it sounds good in theory but putting it into action can be a problem. So I'm here to tell you, that you must first start with how you feel about yourself and how to take care of yourself. That being said, Start the new year off by paying attention to you. Find out what it is about you that is truly positive. Next find your self a path to walk on, that will put you in a positive direction to  become who you want to be. You have got to Love,Respect, and Appreciate yourself before you  invite other people into your world. It is impossible to get this from other people or give it. If you don't have it for yourself. That being said why would you try to get involved with people and say your looking for Love if you don't know how to love you. If you are involved with another person think about how you treat each other. It may be time to do some improvements in your relationship. You may even find that you guys are not treating each other fairly. How can somebody appreciate the meal you've cooked for them if you didn't take pride in making it. How can somebody respect you after sex if you didn't respect you before sex. If you are careless with your health, why should somebody else care about your health . This is a new year people if you didn't care before care now. Sex is beautiful we all enjoy it. Adventures are great it keeps the spice in our life. We can have all the bliss, all the joy and love our hearts body and mind can hold. Lets just be responsible that is the adult thing to do.   Happy New Year